Give up!
I was so confused when I started writing this as I came across the two words as a perfect subject for it. The words are 'GIVE UP' & 'The ultimate fighter'. These two words draws completely contradictory picture of person when they are used. Here I used these two words to show one's personality. The girl who is ultimate fighter but now a days thinking of giving up in small small things.
When we call someone the ultimate fighter then it means no matter what s/he will fight in any condition for truth, rights or may be for own pride. But here battle is not always with the situation or unknown persons. The time may comes when the battle is with yourself or may be it is with your love one or the person who is directly or indirectly effecting your family or your love ones. These are the battles where these two words plays major role whether to fight or give up. The very famous poet Mr. Harivanshray Bachchan has written in one of his poetry in Madhushala that,
"Harna tab jaruri hai jab ladai apno se ho and jitna tab jaruri hai jab ladai apne aap se ho"
It has very deep thought behind it. Somewhere I observed this two situation walking in hand to hand in one occasion. Few days ago, I was just having chitchat with one close friend of mine and came across such situation. I know this girl more than 15 years. When we know someone for such a longer time then needless to say that how much you know about that person. The girl is I can say mature enough to handle relations, and take care of herself in ANY situation. But this time it was different, she was narrating something else. She has shifted to somewhere else few months back. It is very obvious that one always need sometime to adjust in new situation but I knew this girl was different and for her it will not be that much tough. She had one story, and the story plays around three character, that girl (First Person), her fiance (Second Person) and a very close person of fiance's life (Third Person).
Being in the same city, now she has to be more connected with these two people. Till now there was no issue before she started more interaction with this two people. She found that there are few things which is troubling her a lot and which needs to be change in this relation. Most of things were related to her relation with second person and third person's involvement in it. She thought of giving sometime to make things proper so she could understand it properly. Though her honest try things didn't work. Whenever she meet with this third person it always ends with few arguments. Since starting that third person has different view than this girl so it started ending up with hot arguments on both side. Gradually, the situation become worse and the whole scene is ending with now hurting each other in small small things unintentionally. Whenever such things happened then girl try to sit back and made herself understand that she is doing all things for that second person to whom she loves. But question is till what limit and till how far one can comprise these things.
It is very important to communicate such behavior to second person and third person, now it was time for ultimate fighter (that girl) to speak about the issues with both of them. They have set up the meeting in order to resolve this issues. In meeting also she couldn't speak up few things as she was knowing that how much she loves that second person and she also knew that by saying anything harsh to third person will effect her relation with second person as second person has very important place of third person in his life. She tried every possible way to not ruin any relation or any occasion. But as I mentioned who can answer to question of till what time and till how much to go with this.
She was unable to find those answers and it led her to give up on few things which was not in her nature though she accepted. I feel very bad when I look into her eyes, I can easily find hidden pain and tears behind that smile. I may not understand her battle completely but what I understood is sometime the ultimate fighter also has to give up. The saddest part is this whole incident left very bad impression in her mind that she is unable to decide upon on not fight and give up. All I could take from her battle is that she took up the above mentioned poem line in her life very well. My dear friend the ultimate fighter wins all her battle when it comes to her, but she couldn't win or survive the battle when it came to love of her life. I still believe that she is still ultimate fighter and fight against wrong but somewhere this incident has effected her moral and led her spirit down of fighter girl.
