Why it is Rai and Bachchan both
Recently new trend has emerged of having two surname for married women. The trend setter is no one else but our former Miss World Aishwarya Rai. After her marriage she changed her surname from Rai to Rai Bachchan. Initially I did not understood it and honestly I did not even tried to understand it I thought it was just for some swag or something. I have also observed other woman following the same and I thought it's just for fashion. My husband has also asked me the same question if I want to keep both surname while updating my other details of legal documents. At that time I was so enthused so I decided to keep it as my husband's surname. All these was in just after my marriage.
Few months has passed from this incident and I got back to my routine life of college and other things. So you are back to routine life that means you have to use your name at various places. In initial months after marriage I used to use my name and surname which I used before marriage for almost 25 years. Few months have passed and I started facing occasions where some or other person from my in law's family is with me and i have to give or say my name publicly. Many a times I have said my name as previously and I and my husband smiled at each other and I have requested it to change it to my new name with my husband's name and surname. Even when I bought my this website domain asked me for my choice at that time also I chose as the name and surname given by my parents. I thought it's just because I am using this since 25 years that's why adopting is becoming difficult but surprisingly it was not the case. I met one of my nephew in Diwali celebration he is just 4 year old. He has started going to school recently, so to make the conversation easy with him I started asking him questions about school and his friends. Once he was comfortable he himself has started telling me things that what he had learned till now in school. He told me his full name which he learnt in school. He did not take single second to do that. After this, I came home and was thinking about him and his answers and I found the same thing must have been happened to everybody in childhood.
Since childhood your parents are teaching you to accept your name and their surname as your identity. In the baby starts speaking, they teach their name and surname to speak as first information and they feel very happy about it that their child has started using his/her official name and surname. So this happened to all children regardless of any gender. This process is like planting trees, the roots are made of it so when tree grows the roots become identity to keep that trees to stay strong in any storm. But in female child story is different, she has to either make changes in roots or have to find some all new roots which supports her identity. Yes, she has to adopt new surname or sometimes whole new name and surname. Think about the tree how difficult it would be for it to change the roots or modify it. The same way girls also feel the same. You have spend almost 25 years to make that name as your identity and finally when people know you by that name especially career oriented women, it is really difficult to modify that identity which you are carrying since childhood.
I think by keeping two surname helps you to not to change your identity. It will just add little change. By this way you will be yourself first by saying the same name you used for so long and adding new surname next to it will add some new changes life brought to you. It adds much more value if you don't loose your originality and add something new to it.
The two surname is definitely help you to not to leave your original identity which you got from your parents and new surname will add new life or future identity which you are trying to make in present.
